Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Regrets and Choices...

So today I have been thinking about regrets.  I really don't believe in having regrets.  I try really hard to be positive as much as possible.  I think you should own your feelings.  Everything in life is a choice.  Choose not to have regrets.  If there is a chance you are going to regret not doing it, then you better try.
However, often the problem is not regret over not having done something, but after you have done it, or said it, you wish you could take it back.  Wow - that is definitely harder.  This takes more work than most people are willing to put out.  It is not ok to just spew garbage and hurtful things and then apologize.  "I'm sorry" just doesn't cut it sometimes.  So think before you speak.  My husband is a master at this.  I am in complete awe at his ability to hold his tongue.  This is something that I strive to achieve.  Especially when I am dealing with teenagers!
I have done and said plenty of things in my life that I should probably regret, but I don't.  They made me who I am today.  I don't regret my first marriage. It gave me four beautiful children and a compassion for stupidity.  Some people really can't help it.  I don't regret all the dumb things I did in high school.  I was having fun, and I learned a lot about life.  Some things that, maybe had I waited until I was older and not so naive to do, might not have turned out so well for me.
The only regret I have is that I didn't go to college after high school.  It's too hard now.  I did manage a little bit here and there later, but the idea of a 4 year degree is completely crazy to me.  Who has time for all that?  Not me!  Plus it's so expensive.  Good grief!  Who can afford it?  So that is my one regret, and it's a biggie!
So my advice to anyone who wants it is...think before you speak, look before you leap, and if you don't - find a reason why it was good the way you did it.  Because everything happens for a reason!
What a rant today!  Thanks for reading!

Wonder Woman


  1. I like it. I think Sinatra said it best, "Regrets, I have a few. But then again too few to mention."